THE DATING GAME

Hmmmm, so I too got affected by the Feb 14th bug via not in a good way.


So I get to work and what I'm welcomed to is my colleague's goodies from her hubby as it's their wedding anniversary, the gifts;

1. A new Samsung 4s zoom camera phone
2. A red Velvet cake
3. A huge customized card telling her how much he loves her # me rolling my eyes#which she displayed in full view in the office.

So which do you belong to:

• I do not have a val and don't care
• I do have a val #tongue out#
• Friends and Family are my Valentine
• I would rather give to the less privileged etc

I just remembered some funny comments made by guys that I went on previous dates on or dated. Others had some funny characters that I can't stop laughing about, although then it wasn't funny. Before I start listing the comments please note that we ladies do make some comments that are out of this world too-so take a chill pill and laugh.

On our first date I got dressed though it was chilly, I was shocked it was McDonald's we were going to have it but kept my cool as I can be humble as the spirit leads. So I mistakenly spilled his milkshake-me and my sometimes clumsy self, felt bad and said sorry 5 times.
 As we sat to eat, we were asking each other questions and getting comfy, then the bomb came and conversation goes thus:
Guy: So how many abortions have you had so far?
Me: Dumb and shocked (please note that as I was recovering from this question, another one followed)
Guy: How regular do you go for your sexual check-up?

Don't worry I aborted him out of my life (or he became my first abortion). After I preached to him that the questions he asked are beyond crazy. His reason given on why he asked me those questions and I quote " he felt I was down to earth".

So if you're wondering what I will be doing for Valentine's day. Well I will be going for a dinner organized by the church  I attend @ 6:30pm. Apparently our pastor is also very worried about the growing number of spinsters and bachelors. I will let you know if I meet some cute hottie.

LOOSING SOMEONE

We all have to die sometime and most times don't know when it's going to occur. Some do know  from the kind of illness they have or some strange occurrence happening.

The real question though is -Are we ever ready for it? Can we accept the fact that we will go someday?( hopefully old and grey). Another thing that comes to mind are these other questions:-

Have I achieved all I wanted?

What will people say about me when I'm gone? of course the list of questions are endless......

Obviously I can't answer these questions but what I can comment on, is how it feels loosing the people you love or are close too.

My first experience was my dad and it was in March 1999, my sister's March 2006 and a host of others.

Lets start with my dads - I still remember how, he had to be rushed to a hospital in another city different from the one we lived in. His Kidney had failed so dialysis was done regularly. I dare say he looked better and I was very hopeful things would take a turn for the best but it didn't.  He died close to midnight, I still feel for my mum who had to bring back his body in the ambulance. No need for other details as I know you get the point.

I really miss a lot about him, as the memories I have still linger on. Things I miss are his cooking, taking us out, taking me to school/ bringing me back home despite the fact that I was in my 20's, going through my love letters and correcting the mistakes the boys had, etc. 

As the first of my siblings I had to be strong for my younger ones and my mum. So my acceptance stage was my humble self crying in the central market seriously wailing while passers by wondered what was wrong with me. Thank God I wasn't alone, I had an elderly woman with me shopping and she helped console me. It's interesting now that I can sit back and laugh at my self after creating such a scene, as I found it difficult to accept his death.

I knew my father had died and yes I cried but the hope of making it go away or better my dad coming back was still there. They say people who are grieving go through some stages and I dare say easier said than done. Lets go straight to the Acceptance stage and ignore the others....... (might come to that another day).

After my experience of the acceptance stage, I would then go to his grave, cry, talk and gave him updates on what was happening to the loved ones he left behind. It's been 15 years now and God has been good to us.

I do hope when I leave this earth, the things said about me, done etc would impact people positively by God's grace. Until another Thursday see ya!