I wish to send my condolences to those who have lost their lives to the Ebola virus and any other form of illness and pray that their souls rest in peace while God grant their loved ones the fortitude to bear the loss.
I was discussing with some of my friends recently and we agreed that it was a good thing that the Doctors were on strike and schools were on holidays while the virus had done its worst. It would have been a terrible situation as we would not have been capable of handling the situation.
I know sometimes we downgrade our medical personnel in our dear country Nigeria but please note that some do work tirelessly to make sure we receive the best treatment possible. I happen to know many and the stories they tell me about patients being brought in and they help them. I wonder how they handle such which the blood etc.
Yes we will always have some bad eggs among them. For example so many years ago I wasn't feeling fine so I went to the hospital for treatment, while I told the Doctor (who was a consultant) what was wrong with me without any tests done he concluded I had HIV saying " You bankers and your lifestyle...." Please note that I had rashes and I'm naturally slim. Is this a sin? I thought Doctors were made to take an oaths to care for patients..... among counseling HIV patients who should not be stigmatized in the first place, whether bankers, lawyers, Iya Amala etc. Here I was thinking about what they say about nurses but this tops my list.
I had to report him to the Medical Director who apologized on his behalf, apparently I had allergies which comes and goes and still don't know what triggers them. Now I think about it ,laugh and smh.... but back then it wasn't funny at all. Going by things some doctors are in the profession by their passion for it, others by their parents, money or chance. We too have to help ourselves by being health conscious whether at homes, offices, schools etc. It begins with you and me.
Thursday 18 September 2014
Tuesday 19 August 2014
HARDWORK, PATIENCE PAYS IN TIME
So how many of us have had all the things we want come easy or as we planned?
If you have, then please send me the recipe or process as I haven't seen that happen yet. We all have needs and wants, some are very important while others are extremely useless- there I said it! It amazes me how some people want something so bad not because they need it but out of envy as a friend, relative, colleague or someone you don't know has it (even celebrities). Hmmmm
, I wonder what the person did to get there? That's the kind of comment one or more people would make, not knowing that to be successful in this life one needs to be hardworking and smart.
Mr. A started a business and is making money/ profit, then suddenly you too go and start one because he did (probably a similar kind too). Whatever happened to handwork? Did you do a thorough research on the market analysis on the business? Who are your target market segment? Which age segment are you channeling your business at? The type of business you wish to do, will it need light? Do you have easy access to roads for distribution? What about parking space for customers where your business will be situated? The list is endless, not forgetting the money you will need to start the business and your passion.
Where Mr. A has the passion for cooking and is hospitable and then opens a restaurant. Assuming he thrives in the business and Mr. B does the same thing but has the passion instead for creativity in fashion. Let's just say that's a disaster waiting to happen.
One thing I can never get over are those who derive pleasure from the downfall of others. They have no positive contribution what so ever to what you do instead they just criticize everything you do. Lord help you if you exceed their expectation, then they start scheming left, right and center. Why not learn, ask questions and try do things differently? Then take a review of what you have been doing and what needs to change.
Life is easy if we learn from our mistakes or those of others and move from there. Even those in The Bible didn't have it easy.
Monday 21 July 2014
ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST
I'm very sorry been so busy, then went on leave but feeling refreshed so here goes...........
So you lost your job, got dumped/ fell out of a relationship, got robbed etc.
You then feel sad, depressed, angry, bitter..the list goes on. I have experienced 3 of the above listed, no need to mention which but I have moved on. Of course after talking about it, eating chocolates or looking for to blame but not taking responsibility for the part I also played in the situation.
Over the years as I have gotten older, I now use the time to reflect on things that happen to me. Some of my friends say I read too much meaning to things or words said; others say I think too much. Be it as it seems, it helps a lot. This is because when done, it goes a long way in saving you embarrassing situations , wasted time, unnecessary confrontation. I even call it my strategy in knowing what to expect or how to deal with the situation when it comes.
Well I am running my race which can't be the same with anyone and found that out the hard way and it became a learning process for me. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" has helped me a great deal. Let me be clear talking less and listening more is a hard task for females generally but God will help me.
Another thing I am good at now is not giving response all the time, silence is so golden when you do it right.
Now the relationship part, I'm not saying the other party had no faults but you, (me), we had ours too. Not bringing or giving enough, not trusting enough, comparing with the ex, daddy (I am a daddy's girl so I compare what my dad did for my mum) sad isn't it. Others include giving space, making the person your all and honestly that's kinda creepy though. No one is perfect so give room for failures and with forgiveness, move on. Bitterness, anger etc will get you nowhere in life.
So the next time something you don't expect (or expect, if you scheme well...) happens to you, evaluate yourself, life etc. Then take it from there, one step at a time! Until next time, au revoir - I have colleagues that speak french so I'm learning.
So you lost your job, got dumped/ fell out of a relationship, got robbed etc.
You then feel sad, depressed, angry, bitter..the list goes on. I have experienced 3 of the above listed, no need to mention which but I have moved on. Of course after talking about it, eating chocolates or looking for to blame but not taking responsibility for the part I also played in the situation.
Over the years as I have gotten older, I now use the time to reflect on things that happen to me. Some of my friends say I read too much meaning to things or words said; others say I think too much. Be it as it seems, it helps a lot. This is because when done, it goes a long way in saving you embarrassing situations , wasted time, unnecessary confrontation. I even call it my strategy in knowing what to expect or how to deal with the situation when it comes.
Well I am running my race which can't be the same with anyone and found that out the hard way and it became a learning process for me. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" has helped me a great deal. Let me be clear talking less and listening more is a hard task for females generally but God will help me.
Another thing I am good at now is not giving response all the time, silence is so golden when you do it right.
Now the relationship part, I'm not saying the other party had no faults but you, (me), we had ours too. Not bringing or giving enough, not trusting enough, comparing with the ex, daddy (I am a daddy's girl so I compare what my dad did for my mum) sad isn't it. Others include giving space, making the person your all and honestly that's kinda creepy though. No one is perfect so give room for failures and with forgiveness, move on. Bitterness, anger etc will get you nowhere in life.
So the next time something you don't expect (or expect, if you scheme well...) happens to you, evaluate yourself, life etc. Then take it from there, one step at a time! Until next time, au revoir - I have colleagues that speak french so I'm learning.
Friday 14 February 2014
THE DATING GAME
Hmmmm, so I too got affected by the Feb 14th bug via not in a good way.
So I get to work and what I'm welcomed to is my colleague's goodies from her hubby as it's their wedding anniversary, the gifts;
On our first date I got dressed though it was chilly, I was shocked it was McDonald's we were going to have it but kept my cool as I can be humble as the spirit leads. So I mistakenly spilled his milkshake-me and my sometimes clumsy self, felt bad and said sorry 5 times.
As we sat to eat, we were asking each other questions and getting comfy, then the bomb came and conversation goes thus:
Guy: So how many abortions have you had so far?
Me: Dumb and shocked (please note that as I was recovering from this question, another one followed)
Guy: How regular do you go for your sexual check-up?
Don't worry I aborted him out of my life (or he became my first abortion). After I preached to him that the questions he asked are beyond crazy. His reason given on why he asked me those questions and I quote " he felt I was down to earth".
So if you're wondering what I will be doing for Valentine's day. Well I will be going for a dinner organized by the church I attend @ 6:30pm. Apparently our pastor is also very worried about the growing number of spinsters and bachelors. I will let you know if I meet some cute hottie.
So I get to work and what I'm welcomed to is my colleague's goodies from her hubby as it's their wedding anniversary, the gifts;
- A new Samsung 4s zoom camera phone
- A red Velvet cake
- A huge customized card telling her how much he loves her # me rolling my eyes#which she displayed in full view in the office.
- I do not have a val and don't care
- I do have a val #tongue out#
- Friends and Family are my Valentine
- I would rather give to the less privileged etc
On our first date I got dressed though it was chilly, I was shocked it was McDonald's we were going to have it but kept my cool as I can be humble as the spirit leads. So I mistakenly spilled his milkshake-me and my sometimes clumsy self, felt bad and said sorry 5 times.
As we sat to eat, we were asking each other questions and getting comfy, then the bomb came and conversation goes thus:
Guy: So how many abortions have you had so far?
Me: Dumb and shocked (please note that as I was recovering from this question, another one followed)
Guy: How regular do you go for your sexual check-up?
Don't worry I aborted him out of my life (or he became my first abortion). After I preached to him that the questions he asked are beyond crazy. His reason given on why he asked me those questions and I quote " he felt I was down to earth".
So if you're wondering what I will be doing for Valentine's day. Well I will be going for a dinner organized by the church I attend @ 6:30pm. Apparently our pastor is also very worried about the growing number of spinsters and bachelors. I will let you know if I meet some cute hottie.
Thursday 6 February 2014
LOOSING SOMEONE
We all have to die sometime and most times don't know when it's going to occur. Some do know from the kind of illness they have or some strange occurrence happening.
The real question though is -Are we ever ready for it? Can we accept the fact that we will go someday?( hopefully old and grey). Another thing that comes to mind are these other questions:-
Have I achieved all I wanted?
What will people say about me when I'm gone? of course the list of questions are endless......
Obviously I can't answer these questions but what I can comment on, is how it feels loosing the people you love or are close too.
My first experience was my dad and it was in March 1999, my sister's March 2006 and a host of others.
Lets start with my dads - I still remember how, he had to be rushed to a hospital in another city different from the one we lived in. His Kidney had failed so dialysis was done regularly. I dare say he looked better and I was very hopeful things would take a turn for the best but it didn't. He died close to midnight, I still feel for my mum who had to bring back his body in the ambulance. No need for other details as I know you get the point.
I really miss a lot about him, as the memories I have still linger on. Things I miss are his cooking, taking us out, taking me to school/ bringing me back home despite the fact that I was in my 20's, going through my love letters and correcting the mistakes the boys had, etc.
As the first of my siblings I had to be strong for my younger ones and my mum. So my acceptance stage was my humble self crying in the central market seriously wailing while passers by wondered what was wrong with me. Thank God I wasn't alone, I had an elderly woman with me shopping and she helped console me. It's interesting now that I can sit back and laugh at my self after creating such a scene, as I found it difficult to accept his death.
I knew my father had died and yes I cried but the hope of making it go away or better my dad coming back was still there. They say people who are grieving go through some stages and I dare say easier said than done. Lets go straight to the Acceptance stage and ignore the others....... (might come to that another day).
After my experience of the acceptance stage, I would then go to his grave, cry, talk and gave him updates on what was happening to the loved ones he left behind. It's been 15 years now and God has been good to us.
I do hope when I leave this earth, the things said about me, done etc would impact people positively by God's grace. Until another Thursday see ya!
The real question though is -Are we ever ready for it? Can we accept the fact that we will go someday?( hopefully old and grey). Another thing that comes to mind are these other questions:-
Have I achieved all I wanted?
What will people say about me when I'm gone? of course the list of questions are endless......
Obviously I can't answer these questions but what I can comment on, is how it feels loosing the people you love or are close too.
My first experience was my dad and it was in March 1999, my sister's March 2006 and a host of others.
Lets start with my dads - I still remember how, he had to be rushed to a hospital in another city different from the one we lived in. His Kidney had failed so dialysis was done regularly. I dare say he looked better and I was very hopeful things would take a turn for the best but it didn't. He died close to midnight, I still feel for my mum who had to bring back his body in the ambulance. No need for other details as I know you get the point.
I really miss a lot about him, as the memories I have still linger on. Things I miss are his cooking, taking us out, taking me to school/ bringing me back home despite the fact that I was in my 20's, going through my love letters and correcting the mistakes the boys had, etc.
As the first of my siblings I had to be strong for my younger ones and my mum. So my acceptance stage was my humble self crying in the central market seriously wailing while passers by wondered what was wrong with me. Thank God I wasn't alone, I had an elderly woman with me shopping and she helped console me. It's interesting now that I can sit back and laugh at my self after creating such a scene, as I found it difficult to accept his death.
I knew my father had died and yes I cried but the hope of making it go away or better my dad coming back was still there. They say people who are grieving go through some stages and I dare say easier said than done. Lets go straight to the Acceptance stage and ignore the others....... (might come to that another day).
After my experience of the acceptance stage, I would then go to his grave, cry, talk and gave him updates on what was happening to the loved ones he left behind. It's been 15 years now and God has been good to us.
I do hope when I leave this earth, the things said about me, done etc would impact people positively by God's grace. Until another Thursday see ya!
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