Hello All,
Yes I know I have not posted for a million light years please bear with me as I found out I have the spirit of now and then blogging. God help me.
So recently blogs and what have you had buzzed as Ibidun Ighodalo's journey on wanting to be a mother had been. That alone was eye opening but what shocked me the most was the comment section on different blogs. Mostly women and men poured out their minds on their experiences (and I mean reactions they got) from their neighbourhood, family members (mother in laws not left out) even in Church.
Most times we are told or advised to look up to God and be grateful when challenges come our way. Have we ever checked our own attitude to others when they are faced with issues. Even I am guilty of shifting or moving away from things or situation that do not concern me other times I laugh (working on being more broken).
Loved one /member of family ill...what did you do?
Relative of age but not yet married....how do you behave around them?
Some one you schooled with sometime ago has an addiction problem or going through depression....hmmmmm I have heard people say not here, we do not get such
Close friend going through a divorce....If male, are suggesting another female/If female are you avoiding such a person not to come near your hubby?
The list goes on....... How have you been reacting to such? Shake your head and say "it is well" or do something else.
Anyways from the comment section I learned that kindness goes a long way in making people going through such feel better albeit you never know when the tides will turn. A hug too would be nice but please note that this depends on how close you relate with the person
The next time people gossip about someone going through something.....shut them up.....leave that place.
I know we have so much going on for us in this country .........Naija we hail thee but please be nice. I started with myself smiling to a female customer service officer today and I called her sweetheart. I got what I wanted, she smiled all through while attending to me and her colleague laughed.
I'm happy they smiled (they might be going through stuff) and I too smiled* and laughed (despite going through mine).
Reading the book of Tobit, even made me happier. Until I blog again, hopefully sooner throwing kindness your way.
Wednesday 7 September 2016
Thursday 4 February 2016
DIARY OF A LAGOS GIRL
Lets make this short as I know I have offended many.
I'm so sorry not been faithful for so long on this Blog .......no excuse is good enough but please know that I intend to turn a new leaf this year but would be according to events that happen.
My yesterday was eventful as I had a very busy day at the office and got invited for the movie premiere of this movie "Diary of a Lagos Girl'. The actors include Dolapo Oni, OC Ukeje,Alex Ekubo, Linda Ejiofor, Paul Adams, Liz Benson-Ameye.
No I will not be a spoiler alert as I hope you would go and watch the movie, as I found it to be hilarious. Why I'm writing on this movie is because I feel there are lessons from it that we can apply everyday which we tend to over look as humans.
1. Be happy.....irrespective of life being the way it is, celebrate it. There's life, you can smile, jump, see, hear, cry ....the list is endless. Life can be fun if we ease up a little
2. Prayer is the key as we go through different experiences in life. Have a relationship with God and this can be done in so many ways praise, thanksgiving, prayer, meditation
3. Frenemies .......Be very careful of those you choose to call friends as they may hardly be and end up causing you hurt as we have seen in the example of TSquares wedding #seizethebae2016
4. Try new things......never say never as I found myself doing things I never thought I could do e.g. eating monkey meat, being a TV presenter in Hausa, hugging randomly as the individual was hurting and trying to heal.
5. Get rid of the fake lifestyle.....we do not need to live our lives to please others, just do you and be happy
6. Give back and start small.......it could be an orphanage, widows, old home etc. The feeling of affecting peoples lives positively can't be explained
Yes I would rate the movie 4/5 as of course I enjoyed the free popcorn but the picture quality (made the actors not so fine) and the sound quality had some ish here and there.
Until another something happens.......take care and God bless.
Thursday 16 April 2015
WHERE TO FIND A HUSBAND?
I have often wondered, how in the olden days parents match make their kids and it worked out after a lot had gone on behind the scenes. Some couples end up happy while others not so happy. I had discussed this with a married female friend of mine, who is so determined I met Mr. Right in good way, Thank God.
So I just finished from church and was feeling good about keeping my hope alive with my long prayer requests to God. Of which money is at the helm so I can spoil my mum for all the sacrifices she had done for us..... among others:)
I decided to go to Mega Plaza to a little shopping but I arrived before 11am so I grabbed a chair and decided to wait patiently till they open at the pop corn spot. Low and behold while I watched how workers came in to prepare for their shift. The following conversation takes place:-
Man: Hello
Me: Hi
Man: "Are you waiting for someone?
Me: Nope to shop
Man: Okay I'm waiting for my friends (I didn't ask as I had systematically scoped his hands and noticed his wedding band)
Me: OK
Now Married Man: So what do you do?
Me: I work at a TV station
Now Married Man:Ok nice I'm not a Nigerian, Kenyan.
Me:Yeah! I noticed
Now Married Man:So where can one get a good sports wear on the Island?
Me: Try The Palms
Now Married Man:So you coming from Church?
Me:Yes
Now Married Man:What do you do to unwind?
Me:I go to church and unwind on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Already in the Entertainment Industry.
Now Married Man: Are you married (I nod negatively) How will you find a husband, if you're always in church?
At that point, thankfully the shop had opened and I majestically took my leave -who am I kidding it was in a haste. He was tall and cute but not single so off with his head.
I bet you all would be wanting me to dissect this episode but honestly there's no need. I just can't be that lady who causes another female folk sadness. I have first hand how it affects wives, kids and others, it's terrible and I do wont mine to be better than I even imagine. Not looking over my shoulder as Hubby is chatting:)
Hmm my next post would be on meeting guys online. You would want to know how to catch a committed man posing as single. Until next time .......
Thursday 18 September 2014
OUR HEALTH SYSTEM
I wish to send my condolences to those who have lost their lives to the Ebola virus and any other form of illness and pray that their souls rest in peace while God grant their loved ones the fortitude to bear the loss.
I was discussing with some of my friends recently and we agreed that it was a good thing that the Doctors were on strike and schools were on holidays while the virus had done its worst. It would have been a terrible situation as we would not have been capable of handling the situation.
I know sometimes we downgrade our medical personnel in our dear country Nigeria but please note that some do work tirelessly to make sure we receive the best treatment possible. I happen to know many and the stories they tell me about patients being brought in and they help them. I wonder how they handle such which the blood etc.
Yes we will always have some bad eggs among them. For example so many years ago I wasn't feeling fine so I went to the hospital for treatment, while I told the Doctor (who was a consultant) what was wrong with me without any tests done he concluded I had HIV saying " You bankers and your lifestyle...." Please note that I had rashes and I'm naturally slim. Is this a sin? I thought Doctors were made to take an oaths to care for patients..... among counseling HIV patients who should not be stigmatized in the first place, whether bankers, lawyers, Iya Amala etc. Here I was thinking about what they say about nurses but this tops my list.
I had to report him to the Medical Director who apologized on his behalf, apparently I had allergies which comes and goes and still don't know what triggers them. Now I think about it ,laugh and smh.... but back then it wasn't funny at all. Going by things some doctors are in the profession by their passion for it, others by their parents, money or chance. We too have to help ourselves by being health conscious whether at homes, offices, schools etc. It begins with you and me.
I was discussing with some of my friends recently and we agreed that it was a good thing that the Doctors were on strike and schools were on holidays while the virus had done its worst. It would have been a terrible situation as we would not have been capable of handling the situation.
I know sometimes we downgrade our medical personnel in our dear country Nigeria but please note that some do work tirelessly to make sure we receive the best treatment possible. I happen to know many and the stories they tell me about patients being brought in and they help them. I wonder how they handle such which the blood etc.
Yes we will always have some bad eggs among them. For example so many years ago I wasn't feeling fine so I went to the hospital for treatment, while I told the Doctor (who was a consultant) what was wrong with me without any tests done he concluded I had HIV saying " You bankers and your lifestyle...." Please note that I had rashes and I'm naturally slim. Is this a sin? I thought Doctors were made to take an oaths to care for patients..... among counseling HIV patients who should not be stigmatized in the first place, whether bankers, lawyers, Iya Amala etc. Here I was thinking about what they say about nurses but this tops my list.
I had to report him to the Medical Director who apologized on his behalf, apparently I had allergies which comes and goes and still don't know what triggers them. Now I think about it ,laugh and smh.... but back then it wasn't funny at all. Going by things some doctors are in the profession by their passion for it, others by their parents, money or chance. We too have to help ourselves by being health conscious whether at homes, offices, schools etc. It begins with you and me.
Tuesday 19 August 2014
HARDWORK, PATIENCE PAYS IN TIME
So how many of us have had all the things we want come easy or as we planned?
If you have, then please send me the recipe or process as I haven't seen that happen yet. We all have needs and wants, some are very important while others are extremely useless- there I said it! It amazes me how some people want something so bad not because they need it but out of envy as a friend, relative, colleague or someone you don't know has it (even celebrities). Hmmmm
, I wonder what the person did to get there? That's the kind of comment one or more people would make, not knowing that to be successful in this life one needs to be hardworking and smart.
Mr. A started a business and is making money/ profit, then suddenly you too go and start one because he did (probably a similar kind too). Whatever happened to handwork? Did you do a thorough research on the market analysis on the business? Who are your target market segment? Which age segment are you channeling your business at? The type of business you wish to do, will it need light? Do you have easy access to roads for distribution? What about parking space for customers where your business will be situated? The list is endless, not forgetting the money you will need to start the business and your passion.
Where Mr. A has the passion for cooking and is hospitable and then opens a restaurant. Assuming he thrives in the business and Mr. B does the same thing but has the passion instead for creativity in fashion. Let's just say that's a disaster waiting to happen.
One thing I can never get over are those who derive pleasure from the downfall of others. They have no positive contribution what so ever to what you do instead they just criticize everything you do. Lord help you if you exceed their expectation, then they start scheming left, right and center. Why not learn, ask questions and try do things differently? Then take a review of what you have been doing and what needs to change.
Life is easy if we learn from our mistakes or those of others and move from there. Even those in The Bible didn't have it easy.
Monday 21 July 2014
ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST
I'm very sorry been so busy, then went on leave but feeling refreshed so here goes...........
So you lost your job, got dumped/ fell out of a relationship, got robbed etc.
You then feel sad, depressed, angry, bitter..the list goes on. I have experienced 3 of the above listed, no need to mention which but I have moved on. Of course after talking about it, eating chocolates or looking for to blame but not taking responsibility for the part I also played in the situation.
Over the years as I have gotten older, I now use the time to reflect on things that happen to me. Some of my friends say I read too much meaning to things or words said; others say I think too much. Be it as it seems, it helps a lot. This is because when done, it goes a long way in saving you embarrassing situations , wasted time, unnecessary confrontation. I even call it my strategy in knowing what to expect or how to deal with the situation when it comes.
Well I am running my race which can't be the same with anyone and found that out the hard way and it became a learning process for me. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" has helped me a great deal. Let me be clear talking less and listening more is a hard task for females generally but God will help me.
Another thing I am good at now is not giving response all the time, silence is so golden when you do it right.
Now the relationship part, I'm not saying the other party had no faults but you, (me), we had ours too. Not bringing or giving enough, not trusting enough, comparing with the ex, daddy (I am a daddy's girl so I compare what my dad did for my mum) sad isn't it. Others include giving space, making the person your all and honestly that's kinda creepy though. No one is perfect so give room for failures and with forgiveness, move on. Bitterness, anger etc will get you nowhere in life.
So the next time something you don't expect (or expect, if you scheme well...) happens to you, evaluate yourself, life etc. Then take it from there, one step at a time! Until next time, au revoir - I have colleagues that speak french so I'm learning.
So you lost your job, got dumped/ fell out of a relationship, got robbed etc.
You then feel sad, depressed, angry, bitter..the list goes on. I have experienced 3 of the above listed, no need to mention which but I have moved on. Of course after talking about it, eating chocolates or looking for to blame but not taking responsibility for the part I also played in the situation.
Over the years as I have gotten older, I now use the time to reflect on things that happen to me. Some of my friends say I read too much meaning to things or words said; others say I think too much. Be it as it seems, it helps a lot. This is because when done, it goes a long way in saving you embarrassing situations , wasted time, unnecessary confrontation. I even call it my strategy in knowing what to expect or how to deal with the situation when it comes.
Well I am running my race which can't be the same with anyone and found that out the hard way and it became a learning process for me. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" has helped me a great deal. Let me be clear talking less and listening more is a hard task for females generally but God will help me.
Another thing I am good at now is not giving response all the time, silence is so golden when you do it right.
Now the relationship part, I'm not saying the other party had no faults but you, (me), we had ours too. Not bringing or giving enough, not trusting enough, comparing with the ex, daddy (I am a daddy's girl so I compare what my dad did for my mum) sad isn't it. Others include giving space, making the person your all and honestly that's kinda creepy though. No one is perfect so give room for failures and with forgiveness, move on. Bitterness, anger etc will get you nowhere in life.
So the next time something you don't expect (or expect, if you scheme well...) happens to you, evaluate yourself, life etc. Then take it from there, one step at a time! Until next time, au revoir - I have colleagues that speak french so I'm learning.
Friday 14 February 2014
THE DATING GAME
Hmmmm, so I too got affected by the Feb 14th bug via not in a good way.
So I get to work and what I'm welcomed to is my colleague's goodies from her hubby as it's their wedding anniversary, the gifts;
On our first date I got dressed though it was chilly, I was shocked it was McDonald's we were going to have it but kept my cool as I can be humble as the spirit leads. So I mistakenly spilled his milkshake-me and my sometimes clumsy self, felt bad and said sorry 5 times.
As we sat to eat, we were asking each other questions and getting comfy, then the bomb came and conversation goes thus:
Guy: So how many abortions have you had so far?
Me: Dumb and shocked (please note that as I was recovering from this question, another one followed)
Guy: How regular do you go for your sexual check-up?
Don't worry I aborted him out of my life (or he became my first abortion). After I preached to him that the questions he asked are beyond crazy. His reason given on why he asked me those questions and I quote " he felt I was down to earth".
So if you're wondering what I will be doing for Valentine's day. Well I will be going for a dinner organized by the church I attend @ 6:30pm. Apparently our pastor is also very worried about the growing number of spinsters and bachelors. I will let you know if I meet some cute hottie.
So I get to work and what I'm welcomed to is my colleague's goodies from her hubby as it's their wedding anniversary, the gifts;
- A new Samsung 4s zoom camera phone
- A red Velvet cake
- A huge customized card telling her how much he loves her # me rolling my eyes#which she displayed in full view in the office.
- I do not have a val and don't care
- I do have a val #tongue out#
- Friends and Family are my Valentine
- I would rather give to the less privileged etc
On our first date I got dressed though it was chilly, I was shocked it was McDonald's we were going to have it but kept my cool as I can be humble as the spirit leads. So I mistakenly spilled his milkshake-me and my sometimes clumsy self, felt bad and said sorry 5 times.
As we sat to eat, we were asking each other questions and getting comfy, then the bomb came and conversation goes thus:
Guy: So how many abortions have you had so far?
Me: Dumb and shocked (please note that as I was recovering from this question, another one followed)
Guy: How regular do you go for your sexual check-up?
Don't worry I aborted him out of my life (or he became my first abortion). After I preached to him that the questions he asked are beyond crazy. His reason given on why he asked me those questions and I quote " he felt I was down to earth".
So if you're wondering what I will be doing for Valentine's day. Well I will be going for a dinner organized by the church I attend @ 6:30pm. Apparently our pastor is also very worried about the growing number of spinsters and bachelors. I will let you know if I meet some cute hottie.
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